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Ten years ago this week I moved to a new city to further my studies at university. I was reminded of my experience today while speaking to two young ladies who have been like my little sisters over the years.
I've known them since they were per-teens and it struck me just how much time has flown by. Nadia is moving away this week to start her first year at university to study law and Starr is going into her final year. Both girls are smart and forward thinking and I believe they will do very well! The transition from college to university can be overwhelming and make one feel apprehensive. When you move away from home to another city it makes you feel even
more nervous because your now rolling solo and have a lot of adjusting to do but it's
exciting all the same.You learn so much about yourself and learn who your real friends are. You meet different people who will teach you a lot and you start to become independent.
You have freedom, which can become your best friend or nemesis, depending on how you use your new found freedom. You set your own rules, plan how your day goes,
responsible for your own meals, and have the opportunity to mould the way you live
and study. A lot students choose to get caught up in the whole fresher's hype and party a lot and get drunk. Even after fresher's week, they spend at least 2 - 3 nights a week going to nightclubs and drinking. I did this during my first semester at university until I got bored of it. I did not know God during this time and even before I started going to church I started to lose interest in these things. They are many ways to fun and a really good time without going to nightclubs and drinking excessively. One thing new students need to remember, which I eventually did is to remember why you are there - which is to get your degree, so make sure you make time to study and find a balance between work and play. Oh and keep on top of your student budget! Be careful with the company you keep and choose friends who you see have a the same vision and outlook on life as you. A lot of people lose their identity just so they can fit in with the crowd! Be yourself and don't allow what others are doing or how they live to make you feel like you have to change to be like them.
I'm finally getting chance to continue sharing my experience from the women's equality event I attended on Tuesday. I am writing this as I sit in my mother's garden after a very delicious Sunday dinner.
As I mentioned in my last video post, we women have a power to influence others and we must use it to make a positive impact in other women's lives. The event was more like a workshop because we all had to participate and share our views and ideas. There were more than 25 women of different age groups and from different areas and backgrounds. We were encouraged to not judge each other's opinions or views and to allow each one to speak and express themselves without jumping in or trying to correct or even impose our own views on each other.
I learned that we should not be ashamed to have our own opinions and views neither should we be afraid to voice them. Even if no one believes in what we believe in, we shouldn't compromise what we stand for or lower our standards. Women with high standards, morals and values are greatly admired. They stand out from the crowd and although they face a lot of adversity and hostility from others because they are different, that doesn't stop them from being who they are. These women make the difference - and we need more women like this in our society.
Something that some of the women picked up on which I didn't realize at first was how older women are viewed as past their sell by date and viewed as not having anything to add in journalism, TV and film, music, certain job roles and positions in politics or society. They are indirectly and at times directly discriminated against and not taken seriously when in truth, mature women have accumulated a wealth of wisdom and invaluable experience over the years that they can pass on to younger women and the wider audience. Because they no longer look young and sexy, they are dismissed, again, showing how the media unfortunately favours beauty over brains and intellect.
The opposite can be seen when it comes to males who are the same age as these older women. Have you noticed how veteran actors such as Denzel Washington, Morgan Freeman and George Clooney still get starring roles in blockbuster films and even have young women half their age as a love interest, but you don't see a lot of actresses their age getting big roles?
That's why many women end up having plastic surgery and non surgical treatments to try and look young. They end up losing their identity and are allowing the media to dictate their self worth and value. The different ideas of how to positively campaign to promote women growing old gracefully and how they shouldn't be judged because of their age or because they've lost their youthful looks was interesting. I really hope some of the ideas are implemented.