I've come across certain comments from young people who have a speech
impediment, expressing thoughts and feelings of frustration, low self
esteem and depression that prompted me to record this message this
It just shows how much investment is needed to inject
positivity into our community, especially to those who feel fed up and
There are certain letters of the alphabet that are a real challenge for me and which I struggle to pronounce which I share in this video. I also share self help techniques and methods that help me to release the word and to flow better.
In this video I share misconceptions that people have towards stammering that really annoy me. They annoy me because of the automatic assumptions made without first asking or the labeling that is sometimes placed on us.
Hello! I'm excited to introduce a new series i'm starting which is all about life as a stammerer.
I have a speech impediment, stammer, stutter, whatever you want to call it and before it was something I was really embarrassed about and hid behind it. I would avoid speaking as much as possible because I was afraid that people would laugh at me and not understand me. I had many insecurities.
Today, I have found freedom from all the complexes and insecurities that once paralyzed me internally and my outlook on life and on my stammer has completely changed. I still stammer, sometimes really badly but it doesn't stop me from doing what I want to do.
One of the things I have been doing differently since the
New Year started is waking up early. I aim to wake up between 4am and 5am
during the week and at the weekends between 5.30 or 6.30am.
Lately, I have been studying the good habits and traits of
successful people and one of the essential habits they have is waking up early
before sunrise. While the rest of the world is asleep, some of the world’s
richest and most successful CEO’s and influential people are waking up between
3am and 5am to start their working day.
At first it was drag. It was so difficult. In December, I tried
it a few times but I was not consistent. However, as I have goals that I want
to achieve, dreams I want to realize, projects and ideas I want to develop, as
well as working in an office for my employer for the first 3 days of the week, studying
in between those days (usually before and after work) and studying 8-10 hours a day on Thursday Friday and
Saturdays in preparation for upcoming exams,I am trying to fit everything in without compromising my studies (which
is the most important right now). In
fact, there are some things I have to postpone for now until my exams are over!
But I’ve still got to have an income right? I’ve still got bills and living
expenses to pay. So rather than being so overwhelmed with everything and
complaining that there is not enough time, I decided to wake up early.
My working pattern is quite flexible and I can start work in the office anytime
between 8.30am and 10am. At the moment I prefer to start work at either 9am or
10am. On the days I am in the office, I tend to wake up at 4am; spend 30 minutes
on Bible mediation and prayer, then check emails, do follow ups for my business
and other related tasks for an hour and a half. I then spend between an hour
and half to two hours studying before getting ready and setting off for work.
After work I spend the majority of my time studying in between preparing my
dinner and before I go to sleep.
When I am not at work, on Thursdays to Saturdays, I use that time to do more work on my business
and projects, catch-up with people and spend between 8-10 hours studying during
the day. On Sundays I do around 4 hours studying in the afternoon after church,
catch up with my family and sleep really early. Last Sunday I was in bed by 7pm
LOL. I was super tired!
This is just an insight into how I have adopted the habit of
waking up early to have a productive day. Its early days yet as I have only been
doing this since the beginning of the year but it’s been beneficial so far.
I have learned I cannot complain there is not enough time to
get things done. The problem is more about being wise with our time, managing
it and making necessary sacrifices to get the work done.
I came across this quote a year ago and I totally agree with it. The way we dress shows our personality. We can attract people to give us attention or take us seriously (in a professional setting for example) just by our appearance.
That's why it's important to invest in this part of who we are. I'm always looking for ways to update my look. As I develop and grow as a person, so does the way I dress. For example, when I was very insecure and didn't care about myself, it showed in the way I took care of myself. But when I started to love myself and gain confidence, I started to invest in my appearance and started to become hold and creative in my style.
I like searching on Pinterest, fashion blogs and websites to get ideas. I know not everything I see is for me due to my body shape, skin tone, age, height etc.., but from looking around and trying different things, I get to see what suits me and what doesn't.
At the moment I'm following Pop Sugar's style hacking challenge and it's been very interesting. I've tried new styles and I've definitely become more creative. Each night I can spend 30-45 minutes just trying different outfits and figuring out what I'm going to wear the next day.
However, more than making an effort with my appearance and wanting to look pretty, is making sure I put double the effort into developing my inner self. Working on ensuring I'm just as 'pretty' inside than outside. That my heart is not habouring a resentment or grudge towards anyone. Double checking I'm not putting myself down and allowing doubts, fears and complexes that try to creep to influence me in a negative way. Nor becoming proud, thinking that I am better than others or doing things to show off and do people.
We can we wear the most stunning outfit and look our utmost best but if we have these things lingering within us and they manifest through out facial expressions, the words that come out of our mouth, our attitudes or actions, all that outward beauty will not compensate for the ugly traits inside.
That's why working on our inner beauty is paramount, in fact I believe it deserves more care and attention than the outer beauty because as we start to invest in becoming beautiful inside, it naturally shines through and is evident outside, through the way we smile, look and treat people.